Do good works, do unto others, put others first......these are the words of many well-meaning people (and religious institutions that enjoy inflicting guilt on others), but there is a manipulative aspect to it, also. We've been taught not to question these instructions. After all, what could be more "saintly" than helping others? That's exactly what is wrong with this. The very act of trying to be good, striving to be saintly, trying to help others will set you up for feelings of either superiority or inferiority. In order to help someone, that person you're helping becomes less than you, in need of something that you have, and you get to elevate yourself to being above him. Most likely you will also enjoy feeling superior to many of your friends and acquaintances.
Many do-gooders feel a tremendous amount of guilt, also. They secretly put themselves down for not doing enough. They compare theirselves to other do-gooders who achieve much more, so they are always coming up short. Above all, they do not accept theirselves as being "good enough" just as they are, and they are lacking love, especially a love they need from theirselves. A fear is involved in this process, too. You're told that you will only be loved by God and people if you go out and do good works and deeds for others. Especially if you want others to believe that you love Jesus, you feel that you have to show the world that you are doing such good works. The physical world wants proof and you have been trained to believe that you have to prove yourself to yourself in order to accept yourself. How insane is that?!!
Before one can share real love, real compassion with others, you have to love hyourself first. A total, pure love for your own sacred self. A total acceptance of yourself without any judgment is absolutely necessary to love and be kind and compassionate to yourself. Most of us don't know how to love ourselves first, and yet we let ourselves believe we have to "love" others and perform so-called good works. When we strive to be a good person before knowing our true essence, all we do is bring our own poison and garbage onto the scene and we try to cure or help others without knowing we are excreting poison. It's like a drowning man trying to save another drowning man. They both die. Nobody benefits from it ultimately and nothing changes. Humanity doesn't change, wars continue, and suffering continues.
No one can be good or love others by striving and forcing himself to be good and loving. The more you try, the more it evades you. Why is that? A thorn bush that strives to release a beautiful fragrance like a rose will try and try in vain. Only a genuine rose can have the beautiful scent of a rose. The rose does have to work at releasing it. It flows from the rose with ease. The rose does not even try to do this, he just is simply being a rose. He's at ease with his Oneness and Beingness. The rose is not trying to be anything at all. The rose doesn't say to itself, "I'm better than the thorn bush", or "I'm not good enough being a rose. I should be like a gardenia, and then I would like myself much more." No! The rose is in a perfect harmony with all that exists in the universe.
When you stop trying to be something, when you just accept that it's perfectly perfect to just "be", only then can one become enlightened. By giving up, or surrendering, an alchemical process occurs. You become like a new person, allowing your true essence to come through. There is no ego to block it from happening anymore. The ego disappears. You begin to accept and love yourself as a connection in the web of all life and all things. A natural love springs forth from you for all living and non-living things. You see the sacredness of all that is and you're a co-creator of the All and you are the All. An enlightened person can then be the candle that lights many others, not by striving and trying, but by simply resting in the space the Now. You become love itself, nothing more or less than anything in existence in the universe. You are whole and you live in Truth. Love springs forth from you without any effort, because that is who you are now......You are Love. Your fragrance is Love. God is Love. You are God. God is You. Everyone and Everything is God, and God is Everything. Are you beginning to see it now?
Only then will you have something of value for others to receive. You don't have to go looking for these others, either. They come to you to be in your presence, to be lit by your flame of love that glows without any effort on your part. You are now able to love others as you love yourself. And then you don't have to try to have love, forgiveness, and compassion for others, because that's who you now are....you are overflowing with love, forgiveness, compassion...so much so that you cannot contain it. There is then no need to be good because you ARE good.
As Andrew Cohen says, "So when you begin to recognize that your own presence here in this world is part of something infinitely bigger than yourself, you feel a sense of obligation awakening within you—a spiritually inspired obligation to be the very best you can be for the sake of the process itself. And the way you respond to that obligation, to that sense of cosmic responsibility, is by demonstrating that the process is profoundly positive, indeed the process is sacred, through your own example, through your own victory, through your own tangible and unmistakable higher development."
I was out earlier today at the bookstore and leisurely browsing at the mall. It was an excuse to go out and drive around and look at the rare snowfall we're having today. I was peaceful and serene, yet so many people I encountered were unhappy and miserable. They were either complaining and yelling at unruly children, complaining about their health, complaining about the weather, etc. Much of their misery is an ingrained habit and they don't even realize they have a choice whether to be in misery or to be in a state of blissful joy.
Habits can change once we're aware of what it is we're doing to ourselves. It's your right as a human being to be blissful right now. This instant, you can choose to let go of whatever miserable thoughts are keeping you down. Simply slow down your thoughts. How do we do THAT, you ask? Easy - be like a cat watching a mouse hole, waiting for the little mouse, or your next thought, to appear. Notice as you watch for the next thought that there is a gap that appears. This gap is No-THING. Nothing. It's wonderful to be in that nothingness gap, where no problems, no troubles, no misery exists. That's what now feels like.
No one can stay like that for more than a second or two, though, I can hear you saying. And I'll bet many of you reading this are saying, "but, I have REAL problems that are important, REALLY big miseries". Besides, you would be boring to yourself if you existed in this so-called "gap". Right? But, who is this "you" that would find it so boring? It's the false "you", the you who is identified with ego. It is only the ego that invites and creates problems, misery, and something to complain about to others. Without it, the ego would disappear. Who would this "you" be if the ego disappeared? You would be blissfully happy. That's the answer. To be this blissfully happy person, you become no one special.
A lot of people don't want that, though. They would rather have their problems that give them a uniqueness to them, a story to tell, to embellish and tell to others. That's who they are and their identity is wrapped up in it. Without it they would feel like they are dying. You could say they enjoy their misery. Have you noticed that people like this love other miserable people, too? They surround theirselves with others like them to make theirselves feel as if this is a normal state to be in. They don't want to be around someone who is happy and joyful. It reminds them of who they could be if only they had the courage to let go of their false ego.
I'm sorry to say this, but churches, insitutions of all kinds, political parties, etc. are full of miserable people. The people all have their stories of woe and want to tell it to all who will listen. They all have "problems", need prayers, need attention from others who will "feed" their egos and allow them to build their stories up into bigger stories. It's good to be compassionate toward others, but when we pretend we're giving sympathy to someone, all we're doing for the poor soul is helping him to become more of a slave to the story of woe and misery.
The more we let go of ego, the more room we have for the state of bliss to take its place. There will be no room for this bliss, though, if you choose to hold on to greed, grievances, jealousy, revengeful thoughts, hurt feelings.........oh, my, the list can go on and on and on. What silly things the human mind wants to hold on to simply in order to have an egoic false self!
Let's get back to the topic of the ones who have "really, big problems". Are you sick right now, dying of a terminal disease, maybe? Or you've got a loved one who is about to pass or has recently passed on? Look for the little things to be grateful for RIGHT NOW! There you will find grace bestowed upon you. Animals, trees, and flowers don't go into a state of self-pity and regret. Humans are the only animals that like to create that and it's only the ego that is doing it. It's not the authentic YOU, the you that is divine love.
The past is gone. The future exists only in the imaginative mind. All there is and ever will be is the present moment. Be present NOW, watch the negative egoic mind patterns vanish from your thoughts. Be still and KNOW that this is who you really are. The "you" that is the authentic self is pure love, pure bliss and has no need to hold on to any mind created misery. You will not die from letting go of it. Only the false "you" will die.
Before you gather with family and friends this holiday season, be aware that not every get-together is as joyful as we'd like it to be sometimes. A little preparation will help a lot:
“Whenever the mind begins to flow downward, become aware as early as possible — as early as possible!
“Someone has insulted you. For you to become angry, a little time is needed because it is a mechanism. You will get angry, but after a gap. Things will happen like a flash. First you will feel insulted. The moment you feel insulted, the second current will begin to flow: you will become angry. At first the anger will not be conscious; first it will be just like a fever. Then it will become conscious. Then you will begin to express or suppress it. So when I say ‘the earlier the better,’ I mean when someone insults you, become aware as soon as you begin to feel that you have been insulted. And whenever you become aware, just make an effort to stop. Don’t fall into the automatic track even for a single moment. Even a single moment’s stop will help much. Longer stops will help even more.
“When [the Russian mystic] Gurdjieff’s father was dying he called his boy. He was just nine, and Gurdjieff remembered the incident all his life. The father called him. He was the youngest child and the father said, ‘I am so poor, I cannot give you anything, my boy. But one thing which my father gave to me I can give you. You may not even be able to understand what it means now, because I myself was not able to understand what it meant when my father gave it to me. But it proved the most precious thing in my life, so I am just giving it to you. Preserve it! Sometime you may begin to understand it.’
“So Gurdjieff just listened. The father said, ‘Whenever you feel angry, never reply before twenty-four hours. Reply, but let there be a gap of twenty-four hours.’
“Gurdjieff followed his dying father’s advice. It became deeply impressed in his mind the very day his father died, and Gurdjieff said, ‘I have practised many, many, many spiritual exercises, but that was the best. I never could be angry in my life, and that changed the whole flow, the whole current, because I had to stick to the promise.
“‘Whenever someone would insult me, I would create something, some situation. I would just tell him that I would come back after twenty-four hours to reply, and I have never replied because it proved such nonsense to reply.’ Only a gap was needed. And the whole life of George Gurdjieff became something different.”
Discover the "Kingdom of Heaven" right NOW! from Rhonda Byrne Creator of The Secret
"How do I stop my negative thoughts?" - is a question that I have been asked many times. If you have ever asked this question then you will feel such enormous relief in knowing the answer, because it is so simple. How do you stop negative thoughts? You plant good thoughts!
When you try to stop negative thoughts, you are focusing on what you don't want - negative thoughts - and you will attract an abundance of them. They can never disappear if you are focused on them. The "stop" part is irrelevant - the negative thoughts are your focus. It doesn't matter if you are trying to stop negative thoughts or control them or push them away, the result is the same. Your focus is on negative thoughts, and by the law of attraction you are inviting more of them to you.
The truth is always simple and it is always easy. To stop negative thoughts, just plant good thoughts! Deliberately plant good thoughts! You plant good thoughts by making it a daily practice to appreciate all the things in your day. Appreciate your health, your car, your home, your family, your job, your friends, your surroundings, your meals, your pets, and the magnificent beauty of the day. Compliment, praise, and give thanks to all things. Every time you say "Thank you" it is a good thought! As you plant more and more good thoughts, the negative thoughts will be wiped out. Why? Because your focus is on good thoughts, and what you focus on you attract.
So don't give any attention to negative thoughts. Don't worry about them. If any come, make light of them, shrug them off, and let them be your reminder to deliberately think more good thoughts now.
The more good thoughts you can plant in a day, the faster your life will be utterly transformed into all good. If you spend only one day speaking of good things and saying "Thank you" at every single opportunity, you will not believe your tomorrow. Deliberately thinking good thoughts is exactly like planting seeds. As you think good thoughts you are planting good seeds inside you, and the Universe will transform those seeds into a garden of paradise. How will the garden of paradise appear? As your life!
May the joy be with you,
Rhonda Byrne The Secret... bringing joy to billions
If you are going to incorporate something you do every day as a part of your routine, it has to make absolute sense to you. That's the way it is for me. I have to understand why I should do it, it has to resonate with me as true, and it has to be simple and easy.
In that past few years, “The Law of Attraction” has become a popular field of study. Basically, the Law of Attraction says that “energetic vibrations tend to attract like vibrations”. We have learned from “The Secret” and many other sources that the key to success in all areas of life is to shift our vibration to match that which we desire. In other words, minding your inner state is the foundation for realizing your ideal possibilities.
If you want prosperity, shift into prosperity consciousness, and prosperous circumstances flow more easily to you.
If you want health, shift into a healthy inner state to promote healthy cells.
This is easy to do, so easy that you might want to dismiss it as insignificant. I can't say enough, though, about how transforming it can be for your life.
Take 5-10 minutes each morning to just close your eyes, feel the emotion of what it would actually be like to have exactly what you'd like to manifest in your life. Imagine it, believe it, and know that the universe will bring to you what you want and need. Now the key is to "feel" it as if you already have it. A radiant joy will envelope you as you know this is your gift that is on its way for you. You will attract more joy all day long, the right people will come into your life, and the universal flow of life will be guiding you in everything you do and wherever you go. Things that will seem like coincidences will occur. These are NOT coincidences! Accept and claim your gift. God, or the Universal Intelligence, is working for you when you are in this flow.
I like to spend another 5-10 minutes each night before I go to sleep and repeat the little exercise as described above. Try it for yourself and see how your life shifts into a more healthy inner state.
So many of us wonder how it is possible to experience wonderful, happy moments one day, and then we turn around and are plunged into chaos, fear, anxiety, and depression which seems to come out of nowhere. How did we get into such a state, we wonder?
There is an unstoppable power, a primal force, within each of us. This force is a Divine Intelligence which generates energy, power, and strength. You are a spark of this Divineness, a manifestation of Spirit in a physical body. The power and energy that allow us to break through old patterns that keep our energy from flowing is always accessible, always instantenous, and will NEVER let you down. Many scientists call this "accessing the Field". Consciousness is The Field, or God, if you would like to call it. This is where your energy flows, Life itself flows, manifesting into new visions which allow us to follow our heart's desires. We are then in sync with everything within and around us.
You may have to go through a breakdown before you get to the breakthrough. It depends upon how much pain and suffering you are willing to go through before you surrender your resistance. Have you reached your pain tolerance level yet? If not, you may be enjoying your chaos, fear, misery, etc. in a sick, perverted kind of way.
I can hear some of you denying this right now. "No! I do not enjoy my suffering! How can you say that?" All right then, what is holding you back from surrendering it? Ask yourself this: Do you really want to love yourself, love others, and do whatever it takes to live and share more of your love? Abandon your "self", the self-centeredness that is holding you back, making you a prisoner of suffering. When you abandon yourself to be a conduit, or an agent, an unlimited energy flows through you. You will be overflowing with it, as a matter of fact! Your vibrational frequency is higher, others feel it, others are attracted to it, and they want what you have, too. You will have the willingness and energy to share your enthusiasm, your love of life, with them.
This power of clarity is what forges open the pathway for evolution to occur. This deep passion brings people together, egos dissolve, and a creative free flow forms a cohesive unity where souls unite without egoic agendas, beliefs, or feelings of inadequacy.
This all happens when you surrender resistance, when you embrace the flow of the Universal Intelligent Mind.
Just for today, "Let Go and Let God". Now relax in the Now, in the ultimate space of peace and see what happens for you. What do you have to lose except your pain, misery, chaos, and fear. When you let go, it's like dropping a hot coal from your hand. It's instant relief, instant bliss.